How Your Romantic Thoughts About Food Keep You Fat
If you are one of the 200 million overweight people in the United States, you are probably in hoping for an easy answer to the question, “How can I stop eating?” Well, you have come to the right place. The quick and dirty answer is you need to stop thinking about food in a problematic way. There is a way of thinking about food that’s a problem and a way of thinking about it that’s not a problem. If you continue to think about it in the problematic way, you will always struggle with your weight. It’s that simple.
Your thoughts are the building blocks of all of the relationships in your life. Just like you have different relationships with your mother, your brother, your lover, your friend, or your boss and you think about each of those people differently, the way you habitually think about food creates your relationship with it. You thinking habit about food, directly correlates with your weight. In other words, this thinking habit is either fattening or slimming.
The way of thinking about food that will keep you over eating, keep your weight on, and make it hard for you to take it off, is thinking about it romantically, imagining what food will taste like in your mouth and imagining that food can give you things that it was never designed to provide. If you think about food as a comfort, friend or greatest source of pleasure, you are barking up the wrong tree. One of the keys to solving your over eating for good, is asking yourself, what am I missing in my life. Are there other sources of pleasure in my life other than food? What do I love to do and what am I good at? Find other ways of creating joy and fun in your life your life. Find other sources of pleasure that are truly satisfying and don’t fill you with shame and regret.
Thinking creates feelings and desires, which lead to action (or eating). The more you think about food, the more you will eat. Ultimately, you want to forge a mature, pragmatic relationship with food. This means thinking about food only when you are hungry and its time to eat. Other than that, if food thoughts arise, you form the new healthy thinking habit of noticing them and turning away. Diets and exercise are important in the battle of the bulge but to heal over eating at its core and finally answer the question, “How can I stop eating?” you have to fundamentally change the way you think about it.